I'm a publicist, and I've worked with high-profile athletes for nearly 15 years. Olympic gold medalists, NFL All-Pros and Super Bowl champions, MLB All-Stars and World Series champions, even an NBA player on a championship team once. I'm not really a nightlife guy, but there are times when I need to accompany clients to clubs, concerts, after-parties, whatever. When I first started, I remember my mouth dropping at every attractive woman who approached one of my clients, and at the things they would say to them or offer them. Now, I don't even bat an eyelash. The only reaction you may get from me is a laugh if it's an approach I haven't heard before. I've seen women slip their numbers to my clients while their boyfriends weren't looking. I've seen women ditch their boyfriends in the bar just for a shot at one of my clients—and I've seen my client shoot those same women down just to laugh at them.
I write this after seeing last week's story of Terry Francona trading pictures with some guy's girlfriend. What this boyfriend needs to know is this: Most likely it was your girlfriend who approached him initially. The odds are that she escalated what was happening. I speak from experience.