No one walks out of family court happy with any result but you have to follow the court's orders or else it's fucking chaos. It's not a, "meh I'll do it if I feel like it" situation. I really can't side with any parent who's disobeying a custody order unless she/he has some objectively pressing fear that the child is in danger of abuse that the court isn't recognizing. And her going to jail "for her kids" is a ridiculous. He has visitation rights. He doesn't even have any real custody. They most likely aren't even staying overnight. So to avoid a visit with their father (by all accounts available to us, non-violent) she's willing to go to jail and upset their lives even further? Sounds like a very unreasonable position to me, and a decision that purports to be "for the children" but really isn't.