Small disagreement on #10. Have a joint account to pay for the household expenses. Have separate accounts for some of your own personal items so no one feels like they have to explain the $20 for a manicure or in my husband's case, the random money spent on what I think is unneeded hair product. (Seriously, the man has a fucking problem with his curly hair.) Update each other weekly on the balances in the separate accounts so no one is surprised when it comes to budgeting and bill paying. But having everything 100% joined always leads to, "Why the did you spend $3 at 7-11? YOU DON'T NEED SLURPEES."
Both men and women should ALWAYS ask the following: How much are you going to help with housework? Will you do the dishes? What about the bathroom? Are you grossed out by cleaning the toilet? Will you be grossed out when you see me put on the gloves and clean your shit and my period blood off of the toilet seat? If yes, do you make enough to pay for a maid? How often do you believe in cleaning? Daily? Weekly? Bi-weekly? Most people have different definitions of clean.
@tekamul: You have to have some money to call your own. Everyone works too fucking hard soul sucking jobs to not have a little money to call entirely their own. I've been in relationships where we handled money 100% jointly and. It. Just. Didn't. Work. #fksfridays
@tekamul: I disagree. My wife and I don't have a joint account at all. I pay all the bills, and she gives me money toward those "common" expenses. As long as I'm not late with the bills, she doesn't care if I blew $40 on eBay buying a Jan. 1930 edition of the Official Guide to the Railways. Conversely, as long as she makes her contribution on time, if she wants to hit up Amazon and buy the complete collection of V and Friday the 13th on DVD, she's free to knock herself out.
We don't hide our account info from each other. Either one of us can quickly look at the other's account if either one of wishes.
Really, it all depends upon the couple. If each are responsible with money and trust each other completely (this cannot be stressed enough), then there's nothing wrong with separate accounts.
@TheStarterWife: I agree with you on the separate bank accounts question. When I was married I used my own account to pay for things for me, like a new computer. I saved the money, I got to buy myself a new toy. When my ex-wife and I split up, we each had our own bank accounts to fall back on. You have to be a little transparent about it so your spouse knows you're not hiding a fortune, but if you can't be honest with them about your finances maybe you shouldn't be married.
The cleaning issue is huge. I always thought I was messy, but my ex-wife turned out to be the messy one. We'd go months without cleaning the bathroom or the kitchen. Now my apartment isn't spotless but it's a lot less of a disaster than my ex-wife's. I don't know how she can live with all that clutter. #fksfridays
@Hustler of Culture: I'm with you on this. We have a joint savings account, but separate checking. My wife (who is in college) pays her own car payment, and the lawn treatment, and I pay the rest.
This idea that you have to combine checking accounts seems kind of silly.
on the plus side, I've been married six years and, with no kids and no dog, I've cleaned off close to half this list. #fksfridays
@TheStarterWife: I definitely go with you on this, my parents have been married going on 34 years and they have 2 separate and 1 joint checking. It's also a really good idea to wait a time period (that you both agree on) before combining credit cards or savings accounts. It's like sharing a bed with someone, you have to feel it out first.
Everyone needs to have their own cash. If you can't trust your mate with that, you can't trust them with anything, and you shouldn't be married.
My mom handles just about all the bills in my parents' relationship, while my girlfriend's dad handles all theirs. Do you guys like the one person bill authority, or split it up? #fksfridays
@Juancho: We do it together, so no one is surprised how much the gas bill is, groceries, etc. @When_you_get_the_money_you_get...: I think there are both men and women looking for "bailouts" and the trick is to avoid them, because really? They're still kids and not ready for life. (I once had a boyfriend who ran to his parents every time he couldn't make his ends meet because he blew his cash on stupid shit. If he couldn't plan for himself there was no way he could plan for a family, so I dumped his needy ass.) #fksfridays
@TheStarterWife: I look at it this way- What's mine is mine, what's yours is yours. This includes large property, personal debts, etc. Now, when you get married, you can ease into stuff and help each other out (that's where love comes in), especially after you start buying stuff together. But you take care of your own. It's just personal responsibility. #fksfridays
@TheStarterWife: Your only choices are: Daily, Weekly & Bi-weekly.... which begs the question, If I say I only do it once a year (Spring cleaning), does that mean you wont marry me ? #fksfridays
These pics seem to be a bit out of order based on his level of shirted-ness. I bring this up because in #10 his fly seems to be undone, which makes me wonder if somewhere between #10 or #1 (or #6) there was a Santonio / Cooley moment.
Just saying, this could be the tip of iceberg.
11/13/09
Both men and women should ALWAYS ask the following: How much are you going to help with housework? Will you do the dishes? What about the bathroom? Are you grossed out by cleaning the toilet? Will you be grossed out when you see me put on the gloves and clean your shit and my period blood off of the toilet seat? If yes, do you make enough to pay for a maid? How often do you believe in cleaning? Daily? Weekly? Bi-weekly? Most people have different definitions of clean.
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We don't hide our account info from each other. Either one of us can quickly look at the other's account if either one of wishes.
Really, it all depends upon the couple. If each are responsible with money and trust each other completely (this cannot be stressed enough), then there's nothing wrong with separate accounts.
11/13/09
11/13/09
The cleaning issue is huge. I always thought I was messy, but my ex-wife turned out to be the messy one. We'd go months without cleaning the bathroom or the kitchen. Now my apartment isn't spotless but it's a lot less of a disaster than my ex-wife's. I don't know how she can live with all that clutter. #fksfridays
11/13/09
This idea that you have to combine checking accounts seems kind of silly.
on the plus side, I've been married six years and, with no kids and no dog, I've cleaned off close to half this list. #fksfridays
11/13/09
Everyone needs to have their own cash. If you can't trust your mate with that, you can't trust them with anything, and you shouldn't be married.
My mom handles just about all the bills in my parents' relationship, while my girlfriend's dad handles all theirs. Do you guys like the one person bill authority, or split it up? #fksfridays
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11/13/09
You should probably avoid community property states, then. #fksfridays
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Just saying, this could be the tip of iceberg.
08/08/09
And Pic 8 shows the gal placing the shotglass in his unzipped pants.
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