How To Be A Gracious And Fun Wedding Date

Fifteen years ago, signing up to be someone’s wedding date might have only meant giving up a couple of hours of your life. You would go to a short ceremony at a neighborhood church followed by a rubbery chicken dinner nearby. You might have had to awkwardly dance to “Shout!” with strangers, but knew that it would be… »10/01/15 1:00pm10/01/15 1:00pm

Bumble Gives Women The Power, But Men Love It Anyway

So Bumble is the new Hinge, which was the new Tinder, which was the new OkCupid. That’s what happens with dating apps: The cool new one inevitably gets overrun by creeps and BDSM enthusiasts, and a cooler, newer, better one comes along to weed out the riffraff and offer yet another gimmicky way to find love, or at… »9/08/15 11:40am9/08/15 11:40am

How Do I Hit On Girls At The Gym? 

Welcome to Ask An Adequate Woman, a safe space where dudes can ask the questions they can’t (or maybe just won’t!) pose to their fellow dudes about relationships, fashion, family dramas, dating, existential crises, weird sex stuff, and so on. In our continued effort to help you attain adequacy, the Women of Deadspin… »8/24/15 11:43am8/24/15 11:43am

How To Have An Actual Conversation With A Woman

I know the headline may have ruffled your peacock feathers, but please, hear me out. Many men do not know how to have a conversation, and it would behoove our communities, our country, and dare I say the entire human race if this disconnect could be bridged. I’m not referring to suaveness in the pickup department or… »8/13/15 1:46pm8/13/15 1:46pm

How To Date Casually Without Hurting Anyone

So, you’ve decided to start dating. But instead of diving headlong into a committed monogamous partnership—or one of those polyamorous ones that’s really more about booty-calling whoever’s around—you’re going to date casually. Which is to say, an ongoing but uncommitted relationship wherein the parties involved… »4/23/15 2:46pm4/23/15 2:46pm

How to Talk To Your New Girlfriend About Your Ex

First and foremost, congratulations on the decision to put your fuck parts together with another person's fuck parts in a more meaningful way than you were putting fuck parts together with others during the abysmal slog through Tinder you've been on since your break-up. Things are probably great: you two have stopped… »3/25/15 12:40pm3/25/15 12:40pm

How To Survive A Long-Distance Relationship

I'm sorry we're here. Or rather, I'm sorry that the Love of Your Life is way, way far out over there. It's not easy being in a long-distance relationship. Trust me. While absence makes the heart grow fonder or whatever, that absence is also exhausting, depressing, and can drive you crazy. You may find yourself waking… »2/26/15 3:52pm2/26/15 3:52pm

How To Deal With Valentine's Day, No Matter Who You Are

This year, Valentine's Day falls on a Saturday (FYI: It's tomorrow), making it awfully convenient for those of you planning a romantic weekend getaway and a three-day headache for the rest of us. Let's face it: This holiday isn't the greatest no matter your relationship status. (The media/retail onslaught of… »2/13/15 3:52pm2/13/15 3:52pm

The Worst Tinder Pickup Lines I've Gotten

People have a lot of things to say on how to Tinder, but my main piece of advice would be this: Don't be gross. Yes, open with something more interesting than "Yo" or "Hey" or "Howdy." (Please don't use "Howdy.") But mostly, don't be gross. Also, please don't repeat any of these opening lines a few men have tried on… »2/02/15 5:38pm2/02/15 5:38pm

How To Hit On Girls In The Club (Or Not)

Let me get this out of the way: I love both going to the club (dancing and music are great!) and dudes (they're so cute!). But dudes absolutely ruin the club. There's a reason ladies often get in for free or cheap: Both dudes and non-dudes are happier when the dude ratio is lower. Just a small sampling of things… »1/28/15 4:07pm1/28/15 4:07pm

How To Meet Your Significant Other's Parents Without Terrifying Them

Of all the fraught rites of new-relationship escalation—Facebook status changes and move-ins and one of you using the toilet while the other showers and so on—none inspires more anticipatory dread than the Parent Meet. And for a whole host of legitimate reasons: the psychic weight of parental approval on even… »1/20/15 10:18am1/20/15 10:18am